Learning to let go

Physical items are not the only ones with expiration dates. As humans, we tend to have a hard time realizing when to let go of that relationship, job, or friendship that has completed its course and no longer serves us. People and things enter our lives for either a reason, a season, or a lifetime; the idea is to categorize them accordingly.

One of the reasons we struggle with not knowing when to let go has a lot to do with the disconnect between our hearts and our minds. Those two together can often be in a different page, hell a different chapter or different book even. So as much as our heart wants to see the loving side, our minds see the rational side and truthfully that trumps over anything else.

Change is inevitable, Growth is optional

Change is probably the most unwelcomed event in our lives. We get so used to the idea of something or someone that letting go seems more painful than paying attention to the damage it can cost keeping it around. Let’s take friendships and relationships as an example. The person you were when you entered either situation is not the person you are now. You either have evolved or have outgrown the relationship, or events could have taken place to make you rethink the situationship. Regardless, you are no longer who you used to be; and that's totally okay. If you are not changing you are not growing. One thing for sure, do not apologize for being who you are, or have become. Instead walk away gracefully. No need to bad mouth, set a wall of people against one another or even lose sleep over the ending outcome. Learn to walk away without leaving a bad taste behind.

A step you should never skip is allowing yourself a short time frame to process your emotions after your decision to end the relationship. Lets be real, you must have had good moments in your life that created some sort of good memories. Without a doubt give yourself time to mourn the relationship. After that, tuck it away and move on. Don't dwell on it, don't marinate the situation, just let it go. Learn to recognize when the time has expired. Pay attention to your energy on it's highs and lows, that's the universe's way of throwing a hint at you about people around you.

Be classy, and keep it to yourself

One major thing to keep in mind is what was said in confidence when a relationship was an amicable one stays within you. At one point or another that friendship was in great standings to give each party involved the comfort level to confide on one another. Sure there were moments when you bitched to your friend about someone, we’ve all had our share of shit talking but that was between you two. I’m a true believer that you set yourself up for any Karma that gets directed your way when releasing what is meant to be kept inside. Its not your job to spill anyone’s tea if you didn’t take time in the kitchen to make it.

There’s always a lesson

As people exit your life always remember they weren’t there by error. Some come to open your eyes, others to teach you how to protect your heart. Regardless of their role some chapters lead to a book's ending for better sequels to form.